Infertility

Friends, the World is Asking More From Us

It’s been eight years since Merryn and I started life as a childless couple, six years since our story was first told in Resurrection Year, with many people and their stories encountered since. I’ve seen that childless couples, and many others, hunger for hope and deep Christian community… but are struggling to find it. Here’s what we can do. More…

Being Heard is the First Step to Healing

‘Being heard is the first step to healing.’ These words from Patrick Regan sum up well the TV conversation you’re about to see. In this TBN UK interview Patrick and I discuss the importance of sharing your emotions, why telling someone to ‘man up’ or ‘have more faith’ doesn’t work, how to understand God’s role in suffering, and how to see beautiful things emerge from your disappointment. I hope it brings you some encouragement today. More…

How to Deal With Trolls (Hint: Don’t Get Even and Don’t Give In)

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The surprising thing about talking publicly about childlessness, is the level of abuse that’s come alongside the messages of gratitude. While many have thanked me for bringing it into the open, an equal number have seen fit to get nasty. I could let it get to me, or I could hit back – but I’ve found a better way to respond… More…

The One Thing Men Can’t Talk Openly About Yet. But What if We Did?

Last year I took part in a piece for a breakfast TV show. As the cameraman and I were driving to the filming location, he told me a story. “Last night some mates and I were in the pub,” he said, “and the conversation turned to depression. It turns out some of the guys are on antidepressants. We could never have had that conversation a decade ago. We’d have been too afraid of looking weak.” The cameraman and I agreed much progress had been made in men being able to discuss their problems without fear or shame. But I had a hunch there was one topic still too taboo for us to talk about with each other. So I put it to him. Perhaps breaking this taboo will be the next stage of progress in men’s health. More…

Do You Trust Me? One Woman’s Wrestle to Trust God with the Unexplainable

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If you’ve seen or gone through a deep grief, you’ll probably know the battle that takes place between your head and heart, while you’re trying to understand, come to terms with loss, and still trust God. Today I’m publishing an entry from someone’s private journal – someone walking that wilderness, wrestling with God while learning how to trust. More…

Not Just Women: Childlessness Cuts Men Up Too (BBC News Video)

For too long childlessness has been seen solely as a female issue. As a result the feelings of men facing infertility have been sidelined. Now new research has shown childlessness can affect a man’s mental health, self-esteem, relationships, masculinity, even his career and finances. And he is often ignored during the treatment process or in follow up support. So let’s be clear: childlessness cuts a man up too. Here’s my interview on BBC News’ Afternoon Live programme sharing my personal experience. More…

How to Help a Friend Experiencing Infertility

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Since going public with our own story of childlessness Merryn and I are often asked how to support a family member or friend going through infertility. So, to mark National Infertility Awareness Week (USA) here’s a video addressing some of those questions. Originally filmed as a live webinar for church leaders, these insights will help anyone who’s walking alongside a couple in the infertility journey…. More…

A Journey Through Broken Dreams (DVD)

Most of us grow up assuming our life will take a certain path. We’ll go to school, find a job, get married, buy a house, start a family. Often though, things don’t go as planned. In A Journey Through Broken Dreams Merryn and I speak candidly about our decade trying to start a family without success, how that effected our faith and our identities, how we stayed together, and the surprising lessons learnt along the way. Beautifully filmed, this DVD gives a glimpse of how you can start again after any broken dream. More…

Resources for the Christian Couple Facing Infertility

From the day a couple discovers conceiving naturally will be difficult, they are thrown into a complex world of options, opinions and decisions. Is IVF an ethical route to take? Should we foster or adopt? What about donor eggs or sperm, or surrogacy? Here are some resources that may be helpful for you or your friends. More…

Dealing with Broken Dreams: Live at Riverview Church [video]

Most of us believe in the Disney Dream: that our prince will come, the damsel will be rescued, and the fairy tale of our lives will come true. But what do we do when the the fairy tale doesn’t come true? Here’s our Resurrection Year story recorded at Riverview Church, Perth. More…