On Spirituality and Change

A Conversation on Finding Your Deeper Identity and Purpose

When you can’t become who you want to be, you can still become who you’re meant to be. And the person you’re meant to be is so much bigger than you’ve dreamed. In the last few weeks I have done dozens of radio interviews across the US, UK and Australia sharing lessons like this from my book The Making of Us. Here is one of my favourites. In this far-reaching conversation, Susie Larson and I discuss the difference between primary and secondary callings, how fixating on our past achievements can blind us to what God is doing in and through us now, how to leave a legacy, and more. I hope you get as much out of this conversation as I did. More…

This One Question Can Help Focus Your Life on What Really Matters

Pick up a typical self-help book and it won’t be long before the author tells you to Follow your dreams. As a dreamer, I love this advice. But not everyone is a dreamer. What do you follow then? It seems to me there’s a more important quest for both dreamer and non-dreamer alike, which is to pursue what matters most. But how can we unearth what that is? In the busyness of the everyday, how can we discern what we should focus on? Here’s a question that can help. More…

Why and How to Do a Mini Pilgrimage

This year as many as 300 million people will go on a pilgrimage. What’s interesting is that this figure has been rising every year for the past decade, and it’s not only religious people who are doing it. Why are so many everyday people feeling the call to make a ‘meaningful journey to a sacred place’? In this post and video I’ll explore some answers, plus give you four steps to plan a mini pilgrimage of your own. More…

Busyness is a Bully, Comparison is a Tyrant. I Say, Enough

Busyness is a bully at the best of times, stomping around, wanting the playground to itself, chasing peace away first, then patience, kindness, joy, and self-control. But this bully becomes a tyrant when it teams up with comparison. Here’s how the two work together. Let’s say ‘enough!’ to their lies. More…

Marry Your Trial with Your Talent to Bring Something New into the World

I made a number of discoveries while writing The Making of Us, one of the most impacting being that the trials of life can release our best gifts into the world. All it takes is some creative merging of those trials with our God-given talents. In this short video I unpack the idea with some examples to help you start thinking about what this might look like for you. More…

Life has Three Journeys. The Second is the Hardest, But it Can Transform You

In his insightful little book The Second Journey, Gerald O’Collins divides life into three phases. The first is from childhood to adulthood, the third from old age to death. In between is the ‘second journey’: a path of great restlessness, questioning and even disillusionment that can nonetheless transform us for good. Here’s an overview of the Second Journey and what can result when it’s travelled well. More…

When You Stop Repeating the Lies and Start Believing What God Says About You

A troubled home life. Feelings of insecurity. A longing for love. Self-hatred. For Malcolm Duncan these feelings developed into a destructive morning mantra he would repeat in the mirror throughout his earliest years. Then one night he had an experience that changed everything. Malcolm’s moving story shows what can happen when we stop repeating lies about ourselves and start believing who God believes us to be. What lies are you believing, and what will you replace them with? More…

What Was That First Christmas Like? This Might Give Us a Clue

I was struck with wonder recently on a cold, rainy night in London, when I came across a dozen angels—made of thousands of pulsing lights, hovering above Regent Street. It’s the most jaw-dropping Christmas display I’ve seen. It got me thinking about what that very first Christmas was like, and the sense of awe that’s central to the story. More…

Do You Trust Me? One Woman’s Wrestle to Trust God with the Unexplainable

Woman with her head down, sad

If you’ve seen or gone through a deep grief, you’ll probably know the battle that takes place between your head and heart, while you’re trying to understand, come to terms with loss, and still trust God. Today I’m publishing an entry from someone’s private journal – someone walking that wilderness, wrestling with God while learning how to trust. More…

How Can We Stay Civil in the Age of Outrage? Here are Three Ideas

Angry sign by matthew brodeur

Political antagonism is growing across the globe. Some have called this culturally polarised time the ‘age of outrage’. In taking a stand for our chosen cause, we’re losing civility. Here are some ways we can stay civil and respectful in the face of our differences. More…