On Life and its Meaning

Time to Rethink Our Attitude to Singleness

More and more of us are single. In the United Kingdom, over a third of the adult population of England and Wales are single, more than half of 25–44 year olds, and singleness is increasing in every age group with 50–64 year olds growing the fastest. Some embrace the single life with joy, others don’t, and both society and church can send mixed messages about it. It’s time to rethink our attitude to singleness. It is neither a curse to be pitied or a condition to be cured but a status with divine dignity. Here’s why. More…

What a Little Girl Named Phoebe Can Tell Us About Ourselves

A few weeks ago I spoke at a secular conference for childless couples—an audience of men and women wondering what to do with their lives now they may not become parents. After I’d spoken, a woman approached me in tears. “I’ve been wondering all day why I came,” she said, “but now I know. I needed to hear about Phoebe.” How ironic that it was a story about an unborn child that made all the difference. But what’s true of Phoebe is true of you too. More…

May I Read My Book to You? Listen Now to The Making of Us Audiobook!

What makes us who we are? How do we adjust when things don’t go as we hoped? Can we recover if we make a choice that’s less than perfect? In The Making of Us I explore these questions and more by telling a story of two friends walking through the rugged beauty of England’s north. May I read some of this story to you? The Making of Us releases on March 19 (April 16 in Australia) in paperback and now in audiobook too! Here are the first two chapters for you to listen to FREE. I can’t wait for you to hear the bit where God shows up in the motel room. And when I get to walk on the clouds. And when the seals start singing. And when I start to discover there’s more to us than our job titles. Go on. Take a listen. More…

The Hand That Spins the Galaxies Wants You Here. Introducing The Creed

One autumn morning not long ago, I walked to an Oxford cafe, took a window table, and pulled out my journal. I wanted to craft a statement – a creed of sorts – that would pull together what I’d learned while writing my new book The Making of Us. Something that captured what matters most in life. Something to read regularly to guide me forward. After many scribbled phrases and crossings out, I arrived at this: The Creed. Today we release it publicly, crafted into a beautiful video by Tyler Jackson, and ready to download as a print for your wall or smartphone. The hand that spins the galaxies wants you here… More…

A Simple Tool to Help You Make Sense of Life

Woman Writing by Hannah Olinger

According to the experts, writing in a journal can help you reduce stress, increase creativity, solve problems, and manage conflict. I’ve also found it to be an incredibly helpful tool for making sense of our personal histories. In this season of New-Year reflection, here are four key themes a journal can help you track to bring clarity to your experience. More…

So Excited to Show You This! Unveiling My Next Book, The Making of Us

A few months ago I let you in on a little secret—I’ve been working a new book these last couple of years about who we are and what we can become. Today I’m excited to officially share with you the title and cover design! The Making of Us: Who We Can Become When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned will roll out across the globe from March 2019. Here’s a little about it, some of the fun things planned, and the goodies you can expect in the coming weeks. More…

How to Deal With Trolls (Hint: Don’t Get Even and Don’t Give In)

Woman typing on laptop

The surprising thing about talking publicly about childlessness, is the level of abuse that’s come alongside the messages of gratitude. While many have thanked me for bringing it into the open, an equal number have seen fit to get nasty. I could let it get to me, or I could hit back – but I’ve found a better way to respond… More…

You Are Known By Name

Woman looking over a lake

I have an embarrassing habit of forgetting people’s names, even of people I’ve known for years (it’s pretty bad—you’ll laugh.) Since names are more than mere words, it’s a weakness I wish I could beat. Thankfully there’s Someone who knows you by name, and who will never forget it. More…

You’re Both So Different? That Could Be What Makes Your Marriage Work

Couple with Black and White Coffees

After 21 years, I sometimes look at my wife Merryn and wonder how our marriage works. I’m a writer and speaker, Merryn is a statistician. I work with words, she works with numbers. I want beauty, she wants function. And that’s only the start of our differences! Here’s what’s helped us stick together… More…

Got Some Goals for the New Year? Great. Just Don’t Forget This

Woman holding a January Calendar

I can be a real dreamer. There’s always a book, a media project, a life ambition waiting in the wings. So when BBC Radio 2 asked what my hope for the new year was, my mind automatically went down the path of goals and ambitions. But something wasn’t right. There’s more to life than career goals… More…