On Life and its Meaning

May I Read My Book to You? Listen Now to The Making of Us Audiobook!

What makes us who we are? How do we adjust when things don’t go as we hoped? Can we recover if we make a choice that’s less than perfect? In The Making of Us I explore these questions and more by telling a story of two friends walking through the rugged beauty of England’s north. May I read some of this story to you? The Making of Us releases on March 19 (April 16 in Australia) in paperback and now in audiobook too! Here are the first two chapters for you to listen to FREE. I can’t wait for you to hear the bit where God shows up in the motel room. And when I get to walk on the clouds. And when the seals start singing. And when I start to discover there’s more to us than our job titles. Go on. Take a listen. More…

The Hand That Spins the Galaxies Wants You Here. Introducing The Creed

One autumn morning not long ago, I walked to an Oxford cafe, took a window table, and pulled out my journal. I wanted to craft a statement – a creed of sorts – that would pull together what I’d learned while writing my new book The Making of Us. Something that captured what matters most in life. Something to read regularly to guide me forward. After many scribbled phrases and crossings out, I arrived at this: The Creed. Today we release it publicly, crafted into a beautiful video by Tyler Jackson, and ready to download as a print for your wall or smartphone. The hand that spins the galaxies wants you here… More…

A Simple Tool to Help You Make Sense of Life

Woman Writing by Hannah Olinger

According to the experts, writing in a journal can help you reduce stress, increase creativity, solve problems, and manage conflict. I’ve also found it to be an incredibly helpful tool for making sense of our personal histories. In this season of New-Year reflection, here are four key themes a journal can help you track to bring clarity to your experience. More…

So Excited to Show You This! Unveiling My Next Book, The Making of Us

A few months ago I let you in on a little secret—I’ve been working a new book these last couple of years about who we are and what we can become. Today I’m excited to officially share with you the title and cover design! The Making of Us: Who We Can Become When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned will roll out across the globe from March 2019. Here’s a little about it, some of the fun things planned, and the goodies you can expect in the coming weeks. More…

How to Deal With Trolls (Hint: Don’t Get Even and Don’t Give In)

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The surprising thing about talking publicly about childlessness, is the level of abuse that’s come alongside the messages of gratitude. While many have thanked me for bringing it into the open, an equal number have seen fit to get nasty. I could let it get to me, or I could hit back – but I’ve found a better way to respond… More…

You Are Known By Name

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I have an embarrassing habit of forgetting people’s names, even of people I’ve known for years (it’s pretty bad—you’ll laugh.) Since names are more than mere words, it’s a weakness I wish I could beat. Thankfully there’s Someone who knows you by name, and who will never forget it. More…

You’re Both So Different? That Could Be What Makes Your Marriage Work

Couple with Black and White Coffees

After 21 years, I sometimes look at my wife Merryn and wonder how our marriage works. I’m a writer and speaker, Merryn is a statistician. I work with words, she works with numbers. I want beauty, she wants function. And that’s only the start of our differences! Here’s what’s helped us stick together… More…

Got Some Goals for the New Year? Great. Just Don’t Forget This

Woman holding a January Calendar

I can be a real dreamer. There’s always a book, a media project, a life ambition waiting in the wings. So when BBC Radio 2 asked what my hope for the new year was, my mind automatically went down the path of goals and ambitions. But something wasn’t right. There’s more to life than career goals… More…

Not Just Women: Childlessness Cuts Men Up Too (BBC News Video)

For too long childlessness has been seen solely as a female issue. As a result the feelings of men facing infertility have been sidelined. Now new research has shown childlessness can affect a man’s mental health, self-esteem, relationships, masculinity, even his career and finances. And he is often ignored during the treatment process or in follow up support. So let’s be clear: childlessness cuts a man up too. Here’s my interview on BBC News’ Afternoon Live programme sharing my personal experience. More…

Hugh Hefner’s Legacy is Nothing to Celebrate (an Important Guest Post)

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Sometimes a friend of mine will get a fire in their belly and write something we should hear, however uncomfortable. Clare Bruce is a journalist and friend who was more than a bit concerned about the accolades Playboy chief Hugh Hefner garnered recently. Given today is the UN’s International Day of the Girl Child, this post is timely. More…