On Life and its Meaning

How to Help a Friend Experiencing Infertility

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Since going public with our own story of childlessness Merryn and I are often asked how to support a family member or friend going through infertility. So, to mark National Infertility Awareness Week (USA) here’s a video addressing some of those questions. Originally filmed as a live webinar for church leaders, these insights will help anyone who’s walking alongside a couple in the infertility journey…. More…

In Praise of Serendipity, God’s Sneaky Surprises

You know those happy coincidences or unexpected discoveries that take us by surprise? We call it serendipity. Not all serendipity is chance, accident or coincidence. A good deal of it is in fact divine. Like my miraculous little encounter as I stood, with aching legs and blistered feet, among the back pillars of Durham Cathedral… More…

Guilty Pleasures: Should I Or Shouldn’t I?

When BBC Radio 2 asked me to talk about guilty pleasures, it wasn’t my obsession with 80s soul and funk music, or my tendency to eat Nutella from the jar, or the sneaky flavours I sometimes add to my coffee, that was my deepest concern. It was my habit of sitting in coffee shops for hours with journal & pen. Read on to find out why, and to explore with me those things that weigh on our conscience… as well as the things that really shouldn’t make us feel guilty at all. More…

What Would You Do With an Extra Day? Your Answer Matters

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How often do you find yourself saying, “if only I could have an extra day?” Well, since 2016 is a leap year, we get one! But imagine I waved a magic wand and gave you an extra day, every week? How would you use it? Your answer will probably uncover what you most need or value. When the producers of BBC Radio 2’s Pause for Thought segment asked me that very question, I wasn’t happy with my honest answer—but a better alternative soon revealed itself… More…

Need Some Inspiration? Here’s 6 Stories to Brighten Your Day

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Children living on a rubbish dump in Paraguay turn trash into music… A mute girl learns to speak… A violent, paraplegic and emotionally scarred lady learns that she’s deeply loved… An antique-lover receives a vintage sewing machine from heaven… If you need some encouragement today, these 6 stories are a great place to start. More…

We are More Than Our Greatest Success or Worst Failure

Portrait of a man by Simon Wijers

Frank Sinatra will forever be remembered for the song My Way, even though he hated it. The same thing happens to celebrities and politicians all the time as one song, controversy or policy failure becomes lodged in public memory. But there is more to them than that. And there is more to you than others see. In fact, there’s more to you than you can imagine. More…

The Risk Worth Taking (by Christina Hubbard)

In this touching guest post, US writer Christina Hubbard shares her risky experiment of bringing estranged family members together for Christmas at her home. “What I feared was our history of back-handed hurtful comments,” she writes. “As I made preparations, I questioned if opening my home and my heart to this family of strangers would create new rivers of pain.” How did it turn out? Beautifully… More…

056 Radical Islam is Filling a Spiritual Void, But There’s an Even More Radical Alternative

According to research, most French Islamists come from non-religious families. They are former secularists who are drawn into jihadist religion searching for meaning and purpose for their lives and a grand cause to live for. This is a desire every human being has – a desire secular society fails to fulfill – which leaves jihadists and others free to fill the void. But there’s an even more radical way to meet this longing. More…

054 Overcoming the 4 Forces That Destroy Relationships

When people ask me what personal discoveries I made reading the Sermon on the Mount every day for a month (then two months, then three), I mention the fact this famous speech is ultimately about resilience, that praying the Lord’s Prayer can be a powerful daily exercise, and that I was surprised how practical his teaching on relationships is. Jesus exposes the four main forces that destroy relationship and gives practical direction on how to overcome each one. Here’s an overview. More…

053 If You Were to Write Your Life into a Short Story, What Would it Say? Here’s Mine

When you’re an author doing media for your a book, it’s an honour to have a journalist ask you questions that reach beyond the press release. That’s what Amy Boucher-Pye did for me recently in preparation for a magazine article. ‘If you were to write your life into a short story, what would it say?’ she asked. Here’s what I came up with and why I believe it’s a valuable exercise for you to try too. More…